I have a house less than a mile from Mason’s campus. This is a huge advantage as my commute is whopping five minutes. This has obvious benefits, among which is residing in the Washington, D.C. suburbs. This is particularly interesting as a parent – the unofficial motto of the region was taken from The Prairie Home Companion: “All of our children are above average.”
This was made most clear to me when we stuck my kid in storage (also known as day care) at the advanced age of four months. My wife and I soon after attended a gathering of parents whose children were stored (I mean nurtured and educated, of course) at the same place. I found a group of parents with kids in the same age range, 3-6 months old, engaged in a VERY SERIOUS conversation about what languages their kids were studying.
Not how many they spoke at home. How many they were studying. Three to six months old. Really?
With my typical sarcasm, I responded that our son had recently learned to blow raspberries quite successfully. The parents in the group managed, at best, a weak response to my clearly superior sense of humor, and asked whether, if our son was not enrolled in language lessons, he was too busy with other classes, like gymnastics or swimming.
Did I mention he was four months old? I told them we hadn’t made it to swimming lessons but that we did manage to bathe him…occasionally.
At this point, I believe, several of the parents immediately called protective services. We’ve wised up since then. Our eight year old now plays soccer and basketball, takes guitar and piano lessons, and speaks fluent Yiddish (and by fluent, I mean that he knows a handful of wildly inappropriate phrases. I, of course, have no idea where he might have learned them).
The reason I’m blathering about all this in what is (arguably) a blog about admissions:
1) This local obsession with toddler involvement continues throughout the country into high school, where students are over-involved, over-scheduled and just plain overwhelmed.
2) Parents and “experts” complain that students have no time to be kids, as they are busy scheduling high school internships in between band right after soccer practice while they volunteer at homeless shelters.
3) All of that hyper-programming is often blamed on the admissions process.
I wonder whether there’s really a problem. Did the pioneers stop their kids from working in the fields after school so they could “have time to be kids”? If given more time, will teens use the freedom to rest or expand their minds with great literature and art – or will they just sit around updating their statuses and gawking at YouTube videos?
On the other hand, scheduling every minute of your life in order to get into college is nutty:
- Extracurricular activity isn’t nearly, remotely, or in any way as important as your academic records;
- You never know what admissions officers are looking for anyhow – especially if they’d prefer to have a student deeply involved in one thing compared to the applicant involved, in one way or another, in every club and activity available;
- And most importantly, it’s a dumb way to live you life. If you’re doing all that stuff because you love it, have a passion for it, and/or can’t bear to live without it, fine by me. Trying to join every single activity that MIGHT give you some miniscule assistance in some mythical admissions process, however, is deeply misguided.
Shameless Plug: Speaking of over-involvement, my team is busy getting everything finalized for Mason’s incredible Washington Journalism and Media Conference next week. Over 150 students from across the country competed to be recognized as THE future leaders in journalism and media, and to come to D.C. to meet with some of today’s best know experts in the field.
Since you can’t know what we want (or don’t want), you can feel free to make choices based on what actually interests you, as opposed to what MIGHT interest us (the admissions office). Isn’t that better? Be seeing you.
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